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The Lonely Side of Studio Leadership

Are you the one everyone leans on but no one checks in with?

This week, I found myself sitting in the car outside in the driveway contemplating the day of work ahead, just… quiet.

Not burnt out. Not broken. Just still.

It’s funny how no one really tells you about this part of leadership. The part where you’ve built something beautiful, you’re surrounded by people, yet there are days you feel completely alone at the top.

You hold the space for everyone. Your team, your students, the parents, the audience. You motivate, manage, comfort, and inspire. But when the curtain falls or the studio door is locked behind you, there’s rarely anyone there asking how you are.

I’ve been there many times. In the early days, I thought loneliness meant I was doing something wrong. That if I were a better leader, I wouldn’t feel it. The isolation. But I’ve since realised it’s not a sign of failure, it’s a sign of responsibility. It means you care.

A Story From the Studio

I remember one show week, everything had gone smoothly and I’d organised a celebratory dinner for my team after one of the show nights. Just a simple meal to say thank you. Most of the staff came together which was lovely, but the following night they went out for dinner after the show. But I wasn’t invited.

At first, it stung. Even though I knew it wasn’t personal, even though I understood that people often don’t hang out with their boss, it still felt lonely. I had fostered a culture where my team could bond, but it didn’t include me. And yet, I was proud of that culture! Of the way they connected and celebrated each other. It reminded me that part of leadership is showing up even when you’re on the outside of the fun.

There were other times too. Staff would tell me about performances or events they were attending together, and I’d realise I wasn’t included. It’s not easy being the one others rely on for guidance, support, and inspiration yet don't see as a "friend". 

And the truth is, even your closest friends and family may not fully understand the weight of what you do. They may cheer you on (from the sidelines), but they can’t always feel the lonely responsibility of keeping everything running.

Why It Matters

Leading is brave work. It’s human work. 

It’s okay to have moments when it all feels heavy. Loneliness isn’t a failure! It’s part of the territory of caring deeply about the people and the work you lead.

This week, I reflected on what it means to pause. What if, instead of pushing through alone, we allowed ourselves support from peers, systems, or even simply giving ourselves permission to rest?

Even a small act of checking in with yourself can make a difference. Five minutes. One breath. One kind thought. Treat yourself with the same care you show everyone else.

Takeaway for Studio Owners

🪞 This week, carve out five minutes to check in with yourself. Ask: How am I really doing?

Lead bravely, care deeply, and remember... you are not alone, even if it feels that way.

🎧 For more stories and reflections on leadership, listen to Episode #220 of Studio Talent Collective ~ the podcast: “The Lonely Side of Leadership.” I share personal experiences and lessons from running a creative business.

CLICK HERE to listen.

x Josephine